Dennis Prager said this the other day and I wanted to share it with you, particularly those of you who are grandparents of rotten spoiled little kids (I know you’re out there!):
“Self control is more important than self esteem.” Prager.
I can’t imagine a saying that’s more important…..Self esteem is good in a person who’s done something that merits it, but kids should learn CONTROL, not how terribly adorably cute and bright they are! …and BROTHER, have I seen out of control kids lately. Had dinner at a casual Mexican haunt of mine recently…10 people, half adults, half kids of about 9 years old, sitting next to us….LOUD. The parents NEVER told the children to HUSH UP and, in fact, were fairly loud themselves. Very upper middle class, nice looking people with no manners. I had a feeling they’d picked the kids up at home after having returned from work, taken them out with them for ‘quality time’ during which they almost never addressed the children, and drove home and handed them back to their nannies, poor kids. I also know children with nannies who are terribly well behaved, by the way.
The hostess came to us later and apologized, and when I looked back at the group, one of the men gave me the ‘thumbs up’ and smiled, as if “we don’t care WHAT you think”….it was so sad. I realized it wasn’t the children we should be upset with but the parents. How would kids even know you’re not supposed to act like that in a restaurant unless they’re given good role models and told to be QUIET? My dad would have swooped any of us up into his arms and out the restaurant door, not to return until we’d quieted…not that we’d ever had the guts to be loud in a restaurant! And, yes, the owner told me outside this was their second visit there and it’d be their last…he was “going to 86 that family”.
SO the Prager comment really resonated with me.
Do you agree with it?