Saw a talk show the other day on TV, for about five minutes…all women, called The Talk.
The hostess was outraged that anybody would dare ask a woman “How do you do it all, raise children, work, etc.?” The rage was that nobody asks the man that. Which is true. The women on the panel were talking about how silly that question is, how sexist it is. and “Why shouldn’t they ask the man?”
I got to thinking and my response to that is “Because women traditionally raise the children and working and raising children isn’t easy. And I’m not even sure it works well to do both at the same time.”
Just as I was losing hope, Ozzy Osmond’s wife, Sharon, said “Let me answer that….when someone tries to do both, raise children and work full time, something is going to give. Either the job will suffer or the children will suffer. I wish I hadn’t worked when my children were small.” I wondered why the group didn’t eat her alive for suggesting this then realized she could mean “man OR woman can’t do both.” Which, again, is true, in my humble opinion, but here’s my question:
DO MOST PEOPLE TODAY (THAT’D INCLUDE YOU AND OTHERS YOU’VE TALKED ABOUT THIS WITH) THINK MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUALLY EFFECTIVE AND EQUALLY NEEDED IN THE DAILY RAISING OF CHILDREN? OR DO SOME OF YOU THINK NOTHING CAN TAKE THE PLACE OF A STAY-AT-HOME MOM….?
Ozzy Osmond’s wife, Sharon I think you mean Black Sabbath vocalist Ozzy Osbourne’s wife, Sharon.
The answer you seek is far too complex to do it justice in “comments.” Everyone has to find their own way in life and I suspect that for the most part, a majority of people give life their best shot. Living life with God is much easier than living life without God … at least, that’s my point of view.
The thing is, whether your fawn upon them, or neglect them, they will “grow up” (age). I suspect that you answer lies in the answer to the question, “what do you intend your grown children to do”. If the answer is, “nothing,” then I hardly see how you can fail, regardless of the time spent with them.
Prior to WW ll this wouldn’t even have come up because most women only worked after graduating from high school (or college) until they found a mate and married. Then they were able to stay home and become the foundation of a healthy family. Only after the war did women start to become working mothers due to having worked in defense jobs and, to an even larger part, the necessity of a 2nd income due to all the government programs that allowed the government to distribute our income “for the benefit of the needy”. Yeah. Thanks a lot! Then all the juvenile delinquency started and things haven’t been the same since.
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Both a mother and father who are active in thier child’s education and activities (not to the point of being helicopter parents tho as I think that works the other way), are needed in a child raising environment. I knew many kids growing up who only had a mother. They were extremely self-interested, violent, somewhat criminal, and generally scwered up in the head. These were all white kids in decent homes.
Today it seems obvious that there are many more single mothers and to what effect that has on their education and general upbringing. The result is an exponential degredation of our society imo.
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To clarify – Every single one of these kids with only a mother – fit this profile.
Your comments makes the same point as mine, Kid. Having both parents has proven best.
Mal & Kid say it all, as far as I’m concerned!