Sunday Faith Blog

I BELIEVE 

IN GOD
FAMILY
TRADITION
BEING CONSIDERATE
LOVE
EDUCATION
DISCIPLINE
FUN

This is what my father wrote my sister  in a letter when she lived in Canada and asked him to write down those things he believed in, were most important to him.  Those wonderful things were MY DAD….gone 25 years this year and not loved one shred less than the day he left us.

Thanks, God, for the best Dad a bunch of girls could have ever had.

AMEN.

And Happy Father’s Day to all you dads……….

 

Z

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14 Responses to Sunday Faith Blog

  1. bocopro says:

    Didn’t have a father in the traditional sense. Met my biofather the day after my senior prom. At HIS father’s funeral, in another town down the road. Didn’t like him.

    I was recuperating from a variety of prohibited beverages and he was introducing me to his 3rd wife, who seemed a bit flashy and just a li’l dusty somehow.

    Lived in a house fulla adults with an old man everybody else called “Dad,” so that’s what I called him. He was actually my mother’s father and had already raised 8 kids, so he had it all whittled down to a bunch of aphorisms, metaphors, homilies, and caveats.

    From time to time he’d say somethin which I realized much later was stunningly profound. Most of ‘em went completely over my head ‘til I was a young adult, and some didn’t really blossom ‘til my own kids needed advice and counsel from THEIR dad.

    One day he’d say somethin right outta the obvious locker, such as “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Remarkably sound advice for countless eventualities.

    When I was about 5 or so, he uttered a multi-layered one which I didn’t get until I was a division officer for a group of Navy technicians nearly half of which were female: “Never sleep with the hired help.” It had stuck in my head, but my original interpretation was somethin like a ranch foreman spendin the night in a line shack with roughriders. Didn’t get the deeper meaning.

    He also told me, not as a direct criticism but more as an observation of my behavior – “You tend to meet a better class of people on a golf course than in a pool room.”

    And there was “Sometimes it’s best to wait before gettin involved in things and sometimes it’s best to get off your butt and do somethin before it’s too late. The trick is knowin which to do when.”

    “The more you learn about life, the more you realize how much you don’t know.”

    “A house with an unhappy woman runnin it will never be a comfortable place to live.”

    “Talkin with people who disagree with your ideas will make you wiser than talkin with your reflection in a mirror.”

    “If you don’t believe in anything, then what’s your point in bein’ here?”

    Can’t remember 90% of the pearls of wisdom he tossed out while I lived in his house. Wish I could. I think some of ‘em are still deep in the crevices of my memory and flash a bit of light on things when times are dark.

    He was “Dad,” a thin, balding, Camel-smokin, indoors Englishman paired with a salt-of-the-earth Scots-Irish woman he’d gone through the Great Depression with and survived. Never saw him do anything physical in his life, but I gotta say he noticed a lotta things along the way and sorted ‘em out into their proper slots for future reference. Then he recognized the teachable moment, pulled out the appropriate flash card, and waved it in kids’ faces.

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  2. bunkerville says:

    A sad day for many….

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  3. geeez2014 says:

    Bocopro…sounds like THAT “Dad” was a great guy! I liked him as I read……… My own dad was full of corny jokes like when Mom cooked fish and Dad said “We having it ‘just for the halibut?” or if you were ironing “Got a pressing problem?” Smart as they come, yet he reveled in this awful jokes! (which I loved, of course, because he said them!)

    Bunkerville…it is a sad day for some….and ‘sad’ means something different to many of us…It.makes me weepy missing my own father, then I think how blessed I was to even just have MET him, let alone spent years enjoying and learning from him, the sacrifices he made to give us girls things, etc………….and then it’s sad and thrilled. And blessed……Boy, do I miss him today when the word FATHER is everywhere…….

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  4. geeez2014 says:

    Bunkerville mentions our missing fathers of our children this day and I hadn’t thought of that. My hubby had 2 children but, being from Germany, and his kids living there, we didn’t really celebrate it for him more than my Dad……sad reminder, but important one. Thanks, Bunk.

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  5. Mal says:

    I’m probably the only one of your bloggers that knew your dad, Z, and everything you said about him is spot on. He was a fun guy who loved his family and was a true friend. I do miss him, too.
    As for my own father, I was lucky enough to have him around until I retired and started drawing my Social Security. Not a day goes by I don’t think of him and wish I could have just one day more with him. My mom went first 5 years earlier. No matter how old you are when your last parent dies, you feel orphaned.
    Bocopros (grand) dad left him with a lot of memories and adages to last him a lifetime. He was an ideal replacement and filled it well.

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  6. Wonderful memories! I lost my dad in 2000. Z. But he’s still with me in my heart and mind. So much of who I am is because of him. I love him dearly and always will.

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  7. Kid says:

    I’ve written about my Dad here before and don’t have anything to add really. I wouldn’t have traded him for anyone else. Mom too. A lot of Dad’s of folks in our age group lived through the depression and fought in at least one of the wars, likely WWII. These are the kind of things that give people the right focus and the desire to pass it on to others, especially their kids. I’m a recipient.

    My step son, age 44 and I were talking on his last trip down here, and as I gave him one of my conspiracy theories regards school shootings, he said, “Oh, this kind of stuff doesn’t surprise me at all. Parents in my age group did a piss poor, Horrible job of raising their kids. The kids are all (nothing is all inclusive) totally self absorbed and completely unable to deal with real life. That they go and shoot a bunch of kids who bullied or offended them in some way is no surprise at all.”

    No idea what the percentage is but we know there are a bunch of them like this running around out there. Not good. An easy life does not create quality people.

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  8. ACUCHUCK says:

    My Dad gone since 88. My favorite saying, though I hated it when he said it was

    “THE OLDER YOU GET (talking to me). THE SMARTER I WILL BEGIN TO LOOK
    I’ll be darned, he was right!!
    Another saying I didn’t always like, was,

    “There is, THE RIGHT WAY AND THE WRONG WAY, AND MY WAY”
    If you say the last one with a German accent, it works better. Happy Pops day to all.

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  9. Bob says:

    “Whenever you get a little ahead, something comes along to WHAM you.” Dad was right. He was WHAMMED a lot, but always got back up.

    “Don’t ever criticize another mans religion.” It’s hard to keep our mouths shut, sometimes, but this has always been good advice. He never told me to keep my mouth shut because his was always yakking, too.

    My Dad was a great man to me. He was a rough man, and a Deacon in the church. He had us at church whenever the church doors were open. He was also a tough, loud boss on construction jobs. All his sons had worked for Dad a couple of summers, and knew how tough a boss could be. None of us followed him into his business.

    By example, Dad taught us how to love. He was not a romantic character, but watching him take care of Mom in some bad years let us know the depth of their love for each other.

    Dad was my best friend. I used to pick up the phone and call him just to chat. I miss him.

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  10. Baysider says:

    I never had a father like any of these, but still some good memories and foundational truths. Z, I don’t find your dad’s jokes corny. It’s a very ‘male’ type of humor that Mr. B has (and still has) in abundance. That quick witticism, that makes you stop for 2 seconds and think.

    I loved reading everyone’s stories here.

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  11. geeez2014 says:

    Baysider, most of us think that humor’s kind of corny but Dad’s sense of humor was legend and these were his lesser quality ones 🙂 My sisters all think I got his humor but it’s the last of us, the ‘baby’ of the family who SLAYS me with her humor and quickness….astonishingly funny!!!!

    I loved reading everyone’s stories here, too. Makes me sort of want to cry to think there were men like this. I think there still are, but fewer. I think OUR GEEEZ MEN are any bit as great as their dads…THAT’s how great those older dads were; they lived by example such wonderful lives.

    Mal, thank you…it means a lot for you to say that here….he was amazing, I have to say. When you’ve been dead 25 years and 75 people come to an after-church luncheon given in his memory, you know he was loved and respected.

    I could comment on every single one of these with nothing to add but THANK YOU FOR SHARING STORIES OF GREAT MEN and IT WARMS MY HEART THAT YOU HAD DADS SO UPSTANDING, SO SMART, SO LOVING, SO GIVING….IN EVERY WAY.

    KID, I don’t care HOW many times you mention your folks, there’s always something wonderful in the way you say it.

    Bob, I’m thinking of you today especially for your son whose life is lost, who I wish I could have known.

    Chuck! “MY WAY” definitely has a better edge in a German accent! HAAA~! Loved that!

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  12. Law and Order Teacher says:

    I miss my dad. He was a great father who was always there for me. Happy Father’s Day to all.

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  13. geeez2014 says:

    Just watched the last 2/3 of A RIVER RUNS THROUGH IT. I never stop loving that film….odd.

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  14. Mal says:

    I love that one also, Z. In fact, we have the video. Some great fishing scenes, too.

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