THINGS TO PONDER: (and a special note at the bottom)

 Z WROTE NOTHING OF THIS BUT WANTED TO SHARE IT……It was emailed to me and I think there’s some good stuff here:

I asked one of my friends who has crossed 70 & is heading to 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself?

He sent me the following very interesting lines, which I would like to share with you ….

#1 After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.

#2 I just realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.

#3 I now stopped bargaining with vegetables & fruits vendors. A few pennies more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.

#4 I pay my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than me

#5 I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down the memory lane & relive the past.

#6 I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

#7 I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You”

#8 I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.

#9 I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.

#10 I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.

#11 I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.

#12 I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships I will never be alone.

#13 I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it might be the last.

#14 I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!

Z:  Saw this and couldn’t resist sharing it because IT IS SO TRUE:



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34 Responses to THINGS TO PONDER: (and a special note at the bottom)

  1. bocopro says:

    Yeah . . . I agree, purty much. I’m firmly in Erikson’s 8th stage (acceptance of the reality that I ain’t gonna grow that 3rd set of teeth, I’m very likely not gonna git any taller, the ringing in my ears is permanent, and eventually I’ll be shuffling off this mortal coil).

    #7 has always been sticky wicket for me . . . just can’t compliment or praise people. Well, MOST people. I’m quick and generous with praise and compliments for my wife, but I’ve never been able to praise our kids, or the people who worked for me, or friends who did somethin especially nice. Only person I ever hug is she . . . not even my own children or grandchildren. I don’t resist when THEY do it to me, but I never initiate it.

    Some kinda glitch ‘twixt my Amygdala office and the Broca center. The concept occurs to me . . . that I oughta say somethin nice to somebody who did somethin right or good or graciously or properly, but it gets derailed before it transfers to the tongue. A shrink I often played golf with at Great Lakes attributed it to my being the only child of a divorced mother.

    Always insisted on “More!” “More!” “More!” from my kids ‘til they finally just quit listenin. Never gave ‘em that “Good Job!” or “Hey, that’s nice” or “Thank you” for their little accomplishments. Made ‘em suspicious, slightly paranoid, and ultra conservative.

    Same goes for moments of tragedy or grief – never know what the hell to say. My BA is in English Ed, my MA is in English lit, know a large number of French words and phrases, can get along in conversational Spanish, and speak moderately good Pilipino. Was on track for the doctorate in linguistics for a while after grad school, but I simply cannot come up with the right words when someone’s had a death or crippling injury close to him.

    I would add to the list, tho, that gettin old definally ain’t fer sissies, and I’ve injured myself worse while asleep in my later years than I ever did in bar-room brawls or industrial activities as a younger man.


  2. kidme37 says:

    Some good true ones in the list that resonate. Some I don’t agree with such as living each day like it’s my last and I don’t love myself just because I got older. It’s the reverse in my case. The older I get, the more all I can remember are my screw-ups, though I dismiss most of them by reminding myself that no one is perfect. I loved myself a lot more when I was young and stupid. I don’t focus on my mortality.

    How about this one. Friends aren’t big things, they’re hundreds of little things.

    How about If you’re feeling down, just look at the people around you when you’re out. Old folks who don’t walk so well. People who are 400 lbs with orange hair and tattooed like a child’s finger painting, people missing limbs, or driving a car that’s worth all of $999.99 etc. I think most of us are doing Ok.


  3. skudrunner says:

    Good thoughts about the wisdom of getting older and sometimes wiser. What younger people have yet to learn but will is the golden years have a lot of tarnish on them. I regret more of what I didn’t do than what I did. I have always told my kids do what makes you happy as long as it doesn’t hurt others, so far so good.

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  4. bocopro says:

    Feel as if I’ve said this already around here . . . but sometimes when I go to the Navy hospital to get prescriptions for me or the wife, I look and the other people in the waiting room and feel kinda weird bein the same age as old people.

    I mean . . . I’m 80 and have no idea who that guy is in my bathroom mirror, but I just CAN’T be as old as some of those folks look.

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  5. geeez2014 says:

    BOCOPRO; Do you compliment your kids THESE days? This really can be SO TRUE “I’ve injured myself worse while asleep in my later years than I ever did in bar-room brawls or industrial activities as a younger man.”
    And yes, it’s amazing to think of women my age looking THAT bad….”I just couldn’t look THAT OLD!” (haha!!!) As a matter of fact, as I type, I insist I’m right 🙂
    I’ve got to say a well deserved compliment or praise DOES make me feel good to give…..AND TAKE , for that matter HA!!

    KID, totally get what you mean….and you probably agree that we need to kind of put aside those ‘screwups’ we acknowledge these days in order to think “Well, they are what they are, but mostly I’ve done pretty darned good” ???
    I don’t like the ‘live each day like it’s your last’ because I don’t want to think every day could be my last….but maybe they don’t mean we have to think of it that way…just live every day fully and as happily and productively as we can…or want to do!!?

    SKUDRUNNER…looks like you very much agree with KID on his thoughts on getting older…and maybe not SO wiser?? !!!


  6. kidme37 says:

    Z, I agree with that. And screw-ups are about half of things I did and things I didn’t do (Took the wrong road, passed on a few opportunities, women, etc)
    I just don’t get taking a shower or driving down the road thinking this could be my last day. Sounds too much like a hallmark card. If I really thought that I’d be at the bank taking out a huge loan, a 5 figure home improvement loan, and giving the cash to someone. A big bank, the kind that have raped us forever.

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  7. #9 I walk away from people who don’t value me.

    Yes, indeed! Some things — some people — are not worth stressing over!

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  8. bunkerville says:

    I wish I knew then what I know now…. only regret to this thing called old age… other than that pretty much right on.

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  9. geeez2014 says:

    RE THE COVID VACCINE>… They keep STRESSING the QUICKNESS “The quickest vaccine in the history of …” And I’m wondering if that’s scaring people?

    What do you think? The WH is using it as a great plus; Kayleigh McEnany is on now at a presser, having opened with the words “The vaccine is coming and it will be creditable to PRESIDENT TRUMP”… (in other words, “we know Biden will finally take credit because the effects will come during his presidency, but IT isn’t TRUE”!!)
    She goes on to frequently say how FAST this vaccine was ready…..

    Good or scary?!!!


  10. geeez2014 says:

    I LOVE KAYLEIGH…..she was shouted a question on her way from the podium and said “I don’t call on ACTIVISTS” Hurrah!


  11. I am not a fan of the vaccine.
    At least one relies on recombinant DNA and Fetal Tissues stem cells.


  12. geeez2014 says:

    Ed…I’m not surprised you don’t like the idea. Many experts are supplying or relying on information like this:

    I’m with you…I don’t trust much these days, but they, and others, pretty much don’t put a lot of stock in the claims.
    Fetal tissue stem cells are obnoxious but not genetically harmful in any way. I’d prefer they could do it from live cells, of course….not sure they can’t.


  13. geeez2014 says:

    \When I saw this, my tin hat magically appeared on my head and I thought “HM! Lil Wayne, the rapper who endorsed Trump is now UNDER ARREST? THey found drugs on his plane? WOW…..
    Now, don’t get me wrong, this guy looks like a druggie and maybe he had guns….but…WHY NOW?

    Payback?!!!! Or am I NUTS?!


  14. MAL says:

    All good advice, Z. My added comment would be we all make mistakes. Ergo, if I ask for forgiveness, I must also be willing to forgive.

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  15. Baysider says:

    There is much wisdom in that list. Been gravitating that direction for many years. I wonder if we had more intergenerational contact as families did in the past if children would have more balance as they enter adult life having witnessed the experiences of the generation that grew old around them.

    I hope they don’t give Trump credit for this vaccine. Not a fan either. My body, my choice especially when it comes to injecting toxic chemicals, aborted fetal DNA, mercury, formaldehyde, aluminum, polysorbate 80, roundup, etc. Not to mention the criticism that trials are being designed to prove the vaccines work, not tested to see if/how they work.

    Prevention of infection is not a criterion as it is in all other vaccines. Forbes reports the protocols of Moderna, Pfizer, and AstraZeneca do not require that their vaccine prevent serious disease only that they prevent moderate symptoms which may be as mild as cough, or headache. And we already know how to reduce symptoms. That’s what Vitamin D, zinc, NAC, HCQ, Vitamin C and others are for! And do a great job of it.

    Despite years of efforts, coronavirus vaccines remain notorious for creating paradoxical immune enhancement so the next time you encounter the virus you can become extremely ill and even die.

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  16. kidme37 says:

    Vaccine. Let people take whatever precautions they desire. No judgement from me. I’m not getting it though unless my doctor says he can’t see me anymore if I don’t because then where do I get prescription refills ? My place of employment will not force me to get it. I’ll retire early if I have to.


  17. bocopro says:

    Here’s MORE than enuf reason for me to avoid it:

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  18. geeez2014 says:

    BAYSIDER….I wish anybody over 65 to count on Zinc if the virus hits them as particularly hard as it can. There’s too much said, pro and con, on the vaccines for me to make up my mind yet. I do trust testing of 15,000 volunteers very very few of whom have become sick in any way, after having been exposed …
    And I do hope Trump gets credit as he’s worked very hard to put an end to this virus and this could do it..
    I don’t love the idea, either, but we can’t go another year or two of this; and behavior and lack of vaccines is NOT going to make this go away.
    I’d even go so far as to limit the vaccine to only people over 50….because those I know who’ve had COVID under that age have done so well getting over it, though 3 weeks is the average time spent feeling pretty darned lousy in those I’ve heard about.

    Kid, I think I’m with you…I’m going to wait, but I do trust my doctor 100% and, if he says ‘take it,’ I probably will. From the specialists I’ve had to be dealing with recently, and my own GP, I’m stunned at the knowledge they have about it and their insight is valuable. Ya, if I mention fairly obscure facts I’ve heard, they’re ON IT. At one specialist, I mentioned some covid virus info that had literally just been released and I heard it on my car radio on the way there, and he knew about it…
    I’m pretty impressed by the level of involvement of my own docs and they can’t be alone in this….I trust them more than any agenda-drive magazine article…


  19. geeez2014 says:

    SO..>Californians now can’t go out from 10 pm to 5 am…we have a CURFEW!

    OK…tell me this: WHERE is someone going to GET covid after 10 pm, since restaurants have no inside dining for MONTHS, and ….well……….what? 10 pm till 5 am?! That’ll do it, huh?!!! HA!


  20. Baysider says:

    “we can’t go another year or two of this” That’s what they’re counting on to strongarm with fear or force.
    WHAT??? Can’t be out after 10? What’s this? Do as I say, not as I do? Nancy Pelosi’s nephew (otherwise known as Governor Gruesome) is pathetic. And atheists call God a cosmic killjoy. Brother!

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  21. MAL says:

    I highlighted what Baysider said earlier about the vaccine and sent it to my DDS son and he said he thinks its pretty much accurate. He added he wouldn’t take the vaccine and wouldn’t recommend my wife or I take it, just as he doesn’t recommend taking the flu vaccine either (but too late as we already did a couple of weeks ago at Costco. We have taken it every year).
    You might remember about 8 months or so back, right after COVID-19 first came out I mentioned my son was on a huge nationwide blog with other MD’s and DDS’s and every one of them were puzzled by all the hype and shutdown being made and the general consensus was it was all about control.

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  22. kidme37 says:

    Z, Ah to clarify. I don’t believe my doc would require me to take the vaccine in order to be able to keep seeing him. This would come down from the government to force him to force his patients or if he gets caught not doing so, fines that put him out of business. Or they directly put him out of business. Padlock his doors. Will the government be that evil under harris? I believe they will.

    They are All In with this vote fraud. If they get control, they will implement every single item on their tyrannical wish list.

    10 to 5 curfew? Doing that in Ohio too but you can go out if you want. This is meant to put another dent in business that deal with the public after 10 pm.

    I did enjoy seeing some California sheriffs saying they have no intention of enforcing it.


  23. Baysider says:

    “business that deal with the public after 10 pm” – BARS, which are already closed here.


  24. kidme37 says:

    No so here yet Bay. But yes, what other purpose could it have? That somehow Covid somehow is more dangerous after 10?? It’s all about total control of the population and it will happen quick with harris in the white house. Covid-19 is their lever.


  25. geeez2014 says:

    BAYSIDER: They’re hardly nephew/aunt but they were related until a divorce…no blood relation.
    But pampered? NEWSOM? You bet!!
    As far as “two more yearS?” I’m with them; America won’t survive if they handle it as they have so far; we need to OPEN.
    Are you hearing all the experts about schools? “0% mortality rate….” in schools!
    Everyone under 70 is said to have a less than 1% mortality rate!?
    It’s like the friggin’ flu…or pneumonia!
    Europe never closed their schools during their second spike, and numbers were flat on covid in kids!

    MAL…I’m all for the flu vaccine….There are MANY ways to look at this. As I’ve said; I’m not huge on the vaccine myself, but I’m liking what I’m hearing from the results on those brave souls participating in the tests.

    KID, ya, I got that about your’d described your feelings on it. I’m just saying I TOTALLY trust my MD and, by the time I’m possibly up to take it, we’ll have a lot more info on it…..Then I’ll decide. No doc is going to force anybody…not yet, anyway!!! Biden’s nuts could force it…like gulag medicine.

    BAY AND KID: I’m glad you agree….I was stunned to think about any moron who thinks that one is MORE likely to catch COVID from 10 pm till 5 am, especially because, as I’d said, we’re not having in-house dining anyway..or drinking, of course!!!

    COVID is now being used like the term RACISM which I talked about, I believ e, YESTERDAY? It’s a weapon…….


  26. geeez2014 says:

    AmAZING teacher on Martha’s show right now…”Straight A students are now giving up” “we have a community (in California) where I live which has had 300 people die…all were over 75…. they’re using this covid for some other reason….. Children need to be with other kids, it’s going too long, they’re not learning…grades are dropping like lead weights”

    Honestly, I believe she’s 100% right. I wish Trump could have prevented governors from shutting schools down.


  27. geeez2014 says:

    Dr Ben Carson is now saYing he was desperately ill with COVID recently….we knew he’d got it but it was worse than it might have been.
    He says he survived only with the kind of drugs Trump also got….

    I think of the thousands of people who lost loved ones because they had ZERO chance of getting those special drugs….I think that stinks, honestly. Very happy Dr Carson survived; he’s a good man, but it just smacks of something wrong. I thought it with Trump, too. You can only get one of Trump’s drugs through IV AT a hospital….not many can take advantage of that, sadly.


  28. MAL says:

    I get it, Z, and agree we listen to our primary care docs so its kind of a conundrum with us. I’ll just have to wait and see before making a final decision. I believe everybody wants to be certain there are no unforeseen “surprises” before taking it and will bow and say “after you.”


  29. geeez2014 says:

    I agree, MAL…who wouldn’t be a little wary of it!! I AM, definitely, but I’m praying all the docs behind it aren’t out there to destroy us all!


  30. “Fetal tissue stem cells are obnoxious but not genetically harmful in any way.”
    What if the vaccine was made from the skin of Dachau victims? It may not be genetically harmful in any way.
    But the recombinant DNA might be.


  31. geeez2014 says:

    Ed, as I clearly said above, it would be good if those were live stem cells and I don’t know they’re not.
    And the link talks about recombinant DNA.


  32. No, They are from an aborted male fetus.


  33. MAL says:

    Using aborted fetuses reminds me of a Veterinarian I knew in1960 that built a research lab in a basement below his practice and was working on a cure for cancer using afterbirth for his base.
    He had some nurses he knew sneak the stuff out for his research.
    Hey! Whatever works, right?


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